How to Stop or at least Reduce the Worry Habit

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I’ve seen many troubles in my time, only half of which ever came true – Mark Twain

Depending on how well you know me, you may or may not know that when I was younger I used to worry a lot probably every minute about every single thing that was happening or may be going to happen.

I don’t know why but somehow I got attracted to the idea of worry at a young age and we became friends. Today, we are no longer friends and I daily keep an eye out for Mr. or Mrs. W (and their children) and do my very best to avoid them entering my life.

Here are a couple of things I do daily to stop the worry habit:


I Define the Challenge and Set a Goal

If there is something I can do about the situation like a lack of work, a lack of friends, a lack of food then I make a plan to take action. If there is nothing I can do about it I can’t take any action so I let it go and I immediately focus on the things that I can change in my life. See if this can work for you.

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I Live in a Day Tight Compartment

When I was about 16 I read a book by Dale Carnegie called ‘How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. ‘Live in a Day Tight Compartment’ was the title of one of the chapters.

The idea is that at the end of the day as you go asleep you accept you did the best you could do that day and do not bring worried thoughts to bed with you. If you have concerns and you can change them then write a note to yourself about the action you need to take. Take the note and put it in your time planner (or in your shoes so you remember it) and take care of the action the next day. Then go to bed and enjoy a restful sleep.


See the Problem as Someone Else’s Problem

If I have a challenge and I am not sure how to handle it rather than worrying about it I like to apply a concept I learned from a friend. He told me look at the situation as if it was someone else’s problem. Then offer yourself the same advice you would offer a person who told you they had the problem.

You know we all can give very good advice when we are telling friends about what to do. We don’t encourage the friend to worry. We tell them to act or just to forget about it. Thinking in the third person can help dissolve a challenge.


There you go – that is three things I use. Of course, after many years working on my own personal development as well as helping other people I have a few more ideas that I will share with you in the future. Try out these three for starters.

If you are curious to read more about Dale Carnegie’s classic book details plus over 140 reviews are on Amazon – check out this link to learn about How to Stop Worrying and Start Living Last time I looked Amazon had it available on a deep discount special. Nice.

Yes, I still have my own copy of this book. It is a classic I recommend you read or get for a friend who needs it.

Enjoy a happy day,