How to Eliminate an Elephant Sized Worry

One of the greatest ways to destroy our health and happiness is to worry.

So what do you do if  the worry seems as big as an elephant and it appears almost impossible to eliminate it.

Here is a recipe to help dissolve a big worry:


Take your worry and write it down in detail. This helps you get perspective.



Add the comments of a trusted friend to help you gain even more perspective



Ask yourself is it likely this feared event will actually happen?

As Mark Twain said “I have spent most of my life worrying about things that never happened”

If the possibility of the event happening is great move to step four or if you realize after writing it down it is unlikely to happen simply let go the worry.



Look with a friend at what all the possible negative results that could happen if the event becomes real. Then consider are the possible results really that bad? If yes, move to step five. If no, forget about the worry and move on to working on other positive experiences in your life.



After taking all these steps decide to take the paper with the notes you have made about your worry and put it aside for a day while you research the possible solutions to eliminating the worry. Ask the same wonderful friend to help you decide on possible solutions.

Then when you have solutions you will often find that bite by bite (bit by bit) you can eliminate the elephant sized worry.

Remember to use some great books to help you find solutions

For example,

If you have a financial concern you can invest a few dollars in a book called The Richest Man in Babylon which will teach you how to get out of debt. If you have zero dollars borrow this book from the library or a friend.

If you are concerned about your relationships with someone of the opposite sex get yourself a copy of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. This is an excellent book.

As a closing note I truly recommend you get yourself a copy of How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. It is the classic self help book on how to get rid of worries.

Yes, I have my own copy on my shelf beside me as I write this.

Your friend on the journey,