A New Way to Create Better Relationships in Business and in Life

building better relationships

In relationships, it is not so easy to know exactly what is important to the people we know and are close to.

Sometimes we think we know what is important to him or her and what is not since we have been around the person for years.

But what if you are wrong and you are repeating old ideas that are tiring not inspiring the other person close to you. And eventually he or she decides to end the relationship.

Maybe it is time to check in and ask the person what is important to them?

If you wish to test things out you can you the below technique and let me know if it works for you.

Take a piece of paper that you are going to give to the person important to you and ask them to complete at their pace.

Write the following:

Commitments by (your name)

3 Actions you like about me and you would like me to do more often

1

2

3

 

3 Actions you don’t like that I do and you would like me to stop

1

2

3

Date:

Date to review: (maybe a month, it takes that long to break a habit)

I commit to these requests to nourish my relationship with

Signed (you)

Disclaimer: There is no guarantee this will work because the person you give it too may not be open to completing the paper. However, in the very least you have shown you want to develop and nourish the relationship you are in.

Business Application

In business you can use a similar approach in requesting feedback from customers or clients. Here like above I recommend you go outside the box of modern business and put these questions on a piece of paper in an envelope with a stamped addressed envelope inside. Your client will be surprised that you did not do this by email. You could offer to do it by email as well. Just offer this at the bottom of the paper.

For clients follow as much as you want the below template.

Commitments to Enhance Service by (you)

3 Actions you like about how I work and you would like me to continue to do

1

2

3

3 Actions you don’t like that I do in my work and you would like me to stop

1

2

3

Date:

Date to review:

I commit to these requests to nourish my service to you

Signed (you)

Naturally, you can look at the above templates and change them around as much as you want. I am simply offering this tool to you as an idea that came to my mind and I have been testing out

Enjoy a wonderful day, David